Single & Content? Not really .....
" I am single and content" ......That's the cringest Christian phrase in my opinion. Why? because 99.9% of the people who say that including myself don't feel content about not having your particular person.
Yes don't get me wrong, yes we are supposed to be content in every situation and all that, but if we are 100% honest with ourselves, the older we get the more we wonder, and don't even get me started if it engagement season or wedding season, that's just depressing.
Now it's funny because when we go and talk to other people, we never admit that we don't like it, that we hate being single, we dislike every second of it and probably ask God " Why? " like 30 times during the day or ........... maybe that's just me.
First rookie mistake, DO NOT SETTLE, dude.......... I can not emphasize that enough do NOT for the love of God, settle just to not be alone, just to have someone, just to have that morning and goodnight text.
Do you remember that TikTok trend that was like " Oh God is he the one " and seconds later she says
" Oh no, he was just another lesson" If you do not know what TikTok I am talking about, I have only one comment.......SHAME ON YOU!
But Girl or Dude, trust me don't settle.
God does not send us lessons. Nobody more than God wants you to be happy, have a family and enjoy the love only your spouse can give you. He will send you prospects and it's on us to choose to go for it or not.
In Genesis chapter 2 we can find the following:
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the,he sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam[f] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[g] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is the now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
I know that the Bible tells us in Genesis that God presented Eve to Adam, just once and they were the perfect match. Let's think about this for a second, they were the perfect match not only because God created them but because there was not sin involved between them.
I am someone who believes that God will present to you different prospects that He created but it's our job to see how close is this person to God, how close is this man to Adam before the fall and how close is she to Eve before the fall.
Let's study the prospects...
6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.
8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”
“Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. 15 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring[a] and hers; he will crush[b] your head, and you will strike his heel.”
“Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil, you will eat food from it all the days of your life. 18 It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. 19 By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since, from it, you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”
The Adam after the fall is a man who does not take responsibility for his actions, someone who does not take charge of his masculinity and job as a leader, and is responsible for his family's actions, it's someone who works and works and nothing seems to happen. Yes, Eve was the first one to eat the fruit, but it was Adam's job to take care of his wife and make sure she was strong spiritually to run from temptation.
The Eve after the fall, is a liar and manipulative, she wants to control the man but it's cursed to be ruled over by him and because of that she can't be submissive, and she will go for her desires and not God's desires. After the fall it's only shame, there is "knowing about God but no relationship with him".
When talking to people that you might find attractive or think of them as "prospects" ask yourself, how close are they to Adam or Eve before the fall, or are they closer to Adam and Even after the fall? Do they know God or do they have a relationship with God, more than that does God know them?
Being single for a long time sucks but being with someone that doesn't love you the way God wants you to experience love is worst. The desires, dreams, fantasies, and standards you have, it was God who put it in you because there is someone who will do all of that and more.
In 1 Corinthians 2:9, we can read the following:
What does this verse mean.....
Think about all the things good things you have seen about relationships
Think about all the cute stuff you have heard about healthy relationships
Think about all the ideas, fantasies, ideas, and dreams, and everything you've ever imagined about your perfect relationship.
God has someone who will surpass ALL OF THAT and MORE because God is in the business of surpassing our expectations and not just meeting them.
I can only pray this blesses you as it blesses me, but don't be mistaken, that doesn't mean I don't have bad days and that you won't either, we are only humans after all but we have to believe that on those days that our human side doubts our spirit it's gonna remind it that waiting doesn't mean unworthy of being love but that we are worthy of a love no one has ever experienced before and that our love story its something no Disney or Nickolas Spark has ever thought about.
You may be one chapter away from meeting the love of your life, so don't close the book......trust the Author.